Here we are in the final stretch of 2016; can you believe it? This year has been such a mish mash of energies that felt so slow during the first half of the year and now seem to be moving at light speed. As we round the corner on this year, there are still lots of opportunities to close out the year in a way that feels really good to you.
November is often a time of gatherings, travel, and the beginning of being knee deep into the holiday season. It’s also a time of reflection and in many ways the beginning of planning for the new year. Taking some time to look back over your year is a powerful way to take ownership of all that you’ve done this year while also being honest with yourself about the things that you would like to invest more time in and the things that you’re not bringing with you into the new year.
This act of taking some time to really look at your year and to take stock of how you feel is a cathartic experience. Often I find that so many people, especially highly sensitive people (like yourself) tend to overlook or undervalue their contributions. I hear a lot of people say things like,
Oh that was no big deal, anyone could have done that.
What I do is nothing compared to what ___________ is doing or has done.
One day when I get around to it I’ll start doing something of value, until then it’s just my day to day routine for me.
These kinds of thoughts or belief systems may go completely under your radar because you’re so used to thinking or believing them that you don’t even notice that they’re there. However, these thought patterns do matter and they make a difference in the way you move through your world. Sometimes it’s easier to see our own contributions if we look at them through the lens of someone else. For example; if your best friend did the exact same things that you did and was in your exact same situation, your support and view of their efforts and accomplishments would probably look and sound very different from the way you talk to yourself about your exact same accomplishments.
- In what ways have you been downplaying or undervaluing the way you’ve moved through your year?
- How can you really acknowledge, appreciate, and value yourself and the impact you make within your world each day?
This is a great time to look back over your year and give yourself permission to see the truth about the way you move through your world.
When you find yourself slipping into negative self talk or small beliefs about yourself, simply stop, breathe, and without judging yourself re-frame your situation. Think about what you would say to your best friend, a loved one, or a colleague in this situation. Then, say those same things to yourself and treat yourself with the same compassion, care, and tlc that you so easily share with others in your world.
In a time where we need more love, compassion, and kindness in the world, begin with you. Extend the same love you have for the people within your world to yourself. At the end of the day you can’t pour from an empty cup. Treat yourself with the same love, appreciation, and respect that you share with others.
By doing this simple yet effective shift, you’ll find that you more easily move toward a life that resonates with your true self. You’ll start investing time into the dreams and desires of your heart. You’ll begin to draw a line in the sand which allows you to say no to the things that are not honoring you or bringing you joy. You’ll begin to reach out for support from people who respect you, and you’ll find that you’re happier, healthier, and more at peace.
As we continue to move through change, and make the final lap of 2016, taking some time to get clear about what’s right for you and the way you want to live your life is an important and worthwhile investment. Even with all the hustle and bustle of the holiday season upon us, investing some time in this review and planning process with be well worth your while. I promise you that you’re worth it and you do have what it takes to make important and lasting change; please be gentle with yourself and enjoy the process.
You matter and you are enough.
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