Digging Deep for Healing and Home
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I know I usually send a little note at the beginning of each month, but last week I was under the weather and was getting the very strong message that I just needed to rest.
It seems like that has been a big theme so far this month, are you feeling it too? There’s been so much coming to the surface for so many people. The last few days it seemed like the number one theme for nearly everyone I talked to was all about Family of Origin issues coming to the surface.
Some things connected to Family of Origin can include but aren’t limited to:
Issues surrounding parenting style and family dynamic
Family Values or Family Stories
Roles within your family; including those you didn’t choose but that were assigned to you
Challenging the family norms
Breaking away or “violating the family story” (By calling out any hypocrisy or issues within that story or way of being.)
Black Sheep Issues or Experiences
Expectations, Pressures, and or Perceived Successes/Failures
Enmeshed Family Dynamics
Emotional Trauma and or Triggers
Self Actualization and Healthy Boundaries
Autonomy and Healthy Sense of Self
This area is really powerful and filled with lots of positives as well as pain points for people. If you’ve been noticing themes surrounding Family of Origin showing up for you too, you’re not alone. Sometimes this stuff shows up as memories, or we may hear a conversation play over again in our head which can bring it all back for us; and sometimes it shows up when we are around our family members or even just talking to them over the phone.
This is an area that can bring up lots of deep healing and room for growth for all of us which is a wonderful thing, but it can also be a challenge too. Sometimes, these issues can feel like a circular experience; right when we think we’ve cleared it, it shows up again. Like most healing processes, this isn’t something that is finished in one fell swoop, it’s more like the analogy of the onion, peeling layers back little by little.
This is such an interesting time we’re all moving through together but separately. With all of the intensity of this year, the lock downs, all of it; it feels like the deep healing that’s happening is even more prescient and palpable, especially for highly sensitive people like yourself. Deep Healing has been on the menu for a while this year and it seems like we’re getting yet another opportunity to focus on self care, deep clearing, and honoring the places and spaces that need some extra tender loving care right now.
One of the most important places we can focus our attention right now is our home. While home is definitely a place where we always want it to rise up to greet us, now more than ever we’re getting lots of opportunities to reconnect with our homes in so many ways. Maybe you’re finding yourself spending more time at home than you have in a really long time…I know I am. (That moment where you feel like you’re going on an adventure when you go into the kitchen…yeah me too.)
Any ways that you can make your home feel more like you and more like a place that fills you up will be so supportive for you right now. It will also foster a safe and gentle space for you to process and move through any healing that could be coming up for you now and in the future. I find that working on or investing in our homes, also helps to clear and heal Family of Origin issues that are showing up too. Home and Family of Origin are deeply connected and when we honor ourselves and our own homes, we can heal the pain points we are working on from the past.
Even if you aren’t living in your forever home right now, that’s okay you can still invest in making your space a place that feels supportive for you. There’s no one way to do this and you don’t have to spend a lot of money doing this either. Anything that feels like a fit for you will make your home a space that is more in alignment with you. Think back to when you were a kid and the times you wanted to change something in your room or move the furniture around so it felt better to you. It’s the same thing now, just some more space, and you get to decide if you’re going to go ahead and paint a wall a bold bright color or set up a cool loft area.
Some things that can really help to clear and create a sense of home and healing can include but aren’t limited to:
Streamlining, Focus on Keeping Things You Love
Clearing out Closets, Pantry’s, Linen Closets etc.
Organizing, Making Things More Accessible to You
Moving Your furniture Around for a New Look or Set Up
Changing Throw Pillows, Blankets, and or Bedding
Bringing in House Plants
Releasing things that have a heavy connotation for you but you’ve kept out of obligation
Smudging
Diffusing Essential Oils
Space Clearing and or Energy Clearing
Playing Music in Your Home Instead of the Television
Clearing the Outside Spaces of your Home Especially Around the Front Door
Only Allowing Kind and Respectful People Into Your Home
Making small but significant shifts can make a huge impact in the way we feel and the way we move through our day to day life. As most of us are continuing to stay home this will be a powerful way to honor and support your healing and self care at this time.
Remember that as you go through this natural healing process that it’s important to be gentle with yourself. Treat yourself in the same ways you would someone else you care about. Talk to yourself in the same ways and tone you talk to your loved ones and care for yourself with the same level of love, compassion, and kindness.
Breathe.
Go slow.
Listen to your body.
Rest when you feel guided, even if you’re not a napper, take a nap if you need it.
Drink more water.
Lean into your support services and tools.
Say no to extra demands on your time and energy.
You’re not alone.
This is a time of deep healing and honoring your needs is important work.
Everyone benefits when we take time to heal and to rest.
Remember you can’t give or help others when you’re exhausted, burned out, and empty.
Honoring your needs is the most loving thing you can do for yourself and for all of the people you love in your world.
I’m sending you lots of love, comfort, and support from my teeny little corner of the world to yours!
With love,
Kristy~ xoxo
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